Happiness and joy

Writing and etymology in Korean
행복과 기쁨
[haengbokgwa kippeum]
幸福 (행복) [haengbok] - happiness
歡 (기쁨) [kippeum] - joy

We are all looking for happiness and joy. But people have never been able to find happiness by itself, they need something else to help them find it – material things, intellectual goals. We find happiness through some sort of object that brings us joy. If we don’t find things or people that stimulate us and make us happy, we can’t go forward.

Happiness comes only temporarily while we struggle for a greater goal or ideal. The problem is always, how do we make the connection between ourselves and the object that will bring happiness?

Joy, happiness, and stimulation cannot be experienced alone; they appear only in the context of a good relationship. But they will not be built by themselves. Unhappiness, depression, and despair will come every time as a result of failing to build the right relationship with the object.

To feel stimulation and joy, we need a partner in love. A loving relationship allows us to reach the pinnacle of happiness.

No one wants to constantly suffer loss and be deprived of something. Joy comes when there is a positive return on investment.

Parents sacrifice by loving their children. No matter how much they sacrifice for their children, it is not a burden to them because there is love behind their sacrifice. All the energy they spend comes back to them as stimulating love. The more they give, the more joy they feel. This gives them the strength to overcome the pain of self-sacrifice. Likewise, husband and wife sacrifice for each other and may even give their lives and find joy in doing so.

Thus, by investing infinitely for love, we will feel infinite joy in return.