Repentance – 悔改 [hoegae]
悔 (회) [hoe] – regret, repent
改 (개) [gae] – to change, to transform
Do not repent alone! Express your remorse out loud, in front of your loved ones – your parents or teachers. In this way, you need to walk a path in which your loved ones will hold you up and unite with you.
If a child offends or hurts his parents, he should tearfully ask for forgiveness so that his parents will forgive him. No matter what country you live in, a person must be punished for a crime, and punishment, whether pain or bodily restraint, makes us suffer. What is the purpose of punishment? Repentance.
When you repent, you must weep. Let those tears hurt you. Your remorse is not real if you do not feel more pain because of your mistakes and sins than if you were punished.
There are two kinds of tears. We cry to be forgiven ourselves, or to save others and help them repent. You must weep for both reasons. Only then will your repentance be complete.
Real repentance requires us to change our behavior.
Parental love always seeks to give. Even if a child makes mistakes and does not listen to his parents, if they continue to love him even more than before, he will feel remorse. If a parent scolds a child by telling him, “You don’t appreciate my love, even though I’ve invested so much, worked so hard for you!” – and reinforce his words by hitting him with a stick, after three of these scoldings the child will pack up and run away from home. But if the parent cries in front of the child, telling him, “All your problems are because I didn’t love you enough. It’s my fault for not loving you more,” and surround him with even more love, the child’s heart will melt, and he will return to his parents. Stronger love can absorb weaker love.